My mother’s older brother smoked Camel unfiltered cigarettes when I was a little boy. One time when he lit a cigarette I was watching in obvious fascination, and he saw the look on my face. He said, “you must never smoke because it’ll kill you.” I replied, “it hasn’t killed you.” He scoffed and said, “you misunderstand: if I ever see you with one of these in your mouth I will personally kill you!”
I guess I believed him because I’ve never tried smoking. Sadly, the cigarettes killed him over 40 years ago, but his warning was so strong that I still haven’t tried them.
Often when I work with counseling clients who are Poly-addicted to many different substances and processes, a lot of them have told me that the toughest thing for them to quit was nicotine. So I guess my uncle gave me good advice to never start.
On the other hand, he was right in a different way, too. Cigarettes did kill a part of me. He was still here for my college graduation and wedding, but I really wish that he had been there for my ordination, the birth of my children, or to hear me preach. His addiction killed a part of my heart.
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Dr. Ray Smith is the most sought-after counselor and relationship coach for physicians in Spokane. After graduating with a Doctor of Ministry from Austin Presbyterian Theological Seminary, he worked with doctors in Galveston, Houston, San Antonio, Spokane, and Memphis, where he earned a second doctorate, in counseling. His background in parish ministry led to pastoral counseling and coaching for Christian MDs and the creation of physicianscoaching.com to help G.P.s and specialists deal with their unique stresses in medicine.
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