Years ago, there was a man on the committee which hired me in San Antonio. He had worked for the federal government since he returned home from military service in World War II. He was my Dad’s age, he had no kids, and my folks lived in Kansas City, so we became family of choice.
You’d have loved his warm smile and bright eyes flowing from his unselfish personality. You’d have respected how he climbed the ladder of GS ratings through devoted hard work. And, you’d have been heart broken when his kidneys failed.
We hear a lot of bad press about bureaucrats and federal employees pursuing and exercising power for selfish reasons. We need to hear more about people like my adoptive father. When he had to retire after 30 years of service, he had accrued a couple of years of vacation and sick time he had not used over his career. After he stopped working, he continued to receive the salary and benefits he had earned over the decades and made life a little easier on his wife during the treatment years.
I miss him.
I want to continue to work with and for people like him. His vocation was a federal employee, but his passion was this country. He served the nation to continue what was good and to solve bad problems. I want to serve such public servants. Your Blue Cross will pay for your services here.
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My mother’s older brother smoked Camel unfiltered cigarettes when I was a little boy. One time when he lit a cigarette I was watching in obvious fascination, and he saw the look on my face. He said, “you must never smoke because it’ll kill you.” I replied, “it hasn’t killed you.” He scoffed and said, “you misunderstand: if I ever see you with one of these in your mouth I will personally kill you!”
I guess I believed him because I’ve never tried smoking. Sadly, the cigarettes killed him over 40 years ago, but his warning was so strong that I still haven’t tried them.
Often when I work with counseling clients who are Poly-addicted to many different substances and processes, a lot of them have told me that the toughest thing for them to quit was nicotine. So I guess my uncle gave me good advice to never start.
On the other hand, he was right in a different way, too. Cigarettes did kill a part of me. He was still here for my college graduation and wedding, but I really wish that he had been there for my ordination, the birth of my children, or to hear me preach. His addiction killed a part of my heart.
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Gambling Disorder: Is it a Real Problem?
Holly T. Meginniss, MSW, LSWAIC
Bright lights, exciting sounds, lots of sounds, and lots of freebies. The lure of a casino can be hypnotic, and is designed to draw you in. The rolling counters of how much money you can win at a machine can be worth the risk, sometimes you might get lucky and win a few bucks. You get a roll going in a poker game or the blackjack table, and you want to keep going because you know you are going to keep winning, after all, you’ve already won; you tell yourself that “If I keep going, I have a chance to win more.” Then you stop winning, and the money you won is gone, in addition to the several trips to the convenient ATM for more cash.
Maybe you don’t go to the casino; instead you play the Lottery games available. Playing those big jackpots with your co-workers or family, then maybe trying your luck at the scratch games available. The commercials say it’s easy, the odds are in your favor. Then you realize that you are spending money that needs to be elsewhere on your lottery tickets, maybe feeling like if you don’t, you’ll be missing out on an opportunity—maybe this will be the time you hit big.
Playing the slots and games on the Internet are “free,” until you realize that the freebees don’t last long. Maybe you win more opportunities to play, and then you decide that you want to go to the next level—spend money to get to those opportunities. Then it becomes something you find yourself doing at inappropriate times, staying up all hours of the day and night for your shot at the big cash.
Gambling is everywhere in our lives, and unless you live under a rock, completely unavoidable. For some people, it becomes a consuming disorder, damaging their finances, their relationships, and their ability to function day to day. But there is help! If you would like to learn more about the options for you or someone you love, please give me a call at Healthy Counseling Center for a phone consultation; I have specialized training in Gambling disorder, as well as the additional specialty of child, adolescent, and family therapy. Gambling disorder does not discriminate based on age, gender, or income bracket. If you believe you or someone you love may be developing a gambling problem, please call me at 509-466-6632.
Your addiction has given you the opportunity to change your life. Changing your life is what makes addiction recovery both difficult and rewarding. Recovery is difficult because you have to change your life, and all change is difficult, even good change. Recovery is also rewarding because you get the chance to change your life. Most people sleepwalk through life. They don’t think about who they are or what they want to be, and then one day they wake up and wonder why they aren’t happy.
If you use this opportunity for change, you’ll look back and think of your addiction as one of the best things that ever happened to you. People in recovery often describe themselves as grateful addicts. Why would someone be grateful to have an addiction? Because their addiction helped them find an inner peace and tranquility that most people crave. Recovery can help you change your life and we can help.